He Dumped Me, Now What?!

I’ve gone back-and-forth wondering how much of this I should share in a world where Tyrese is getting so much shade for being all in his feelings. I can sit up and post about my last workout or how veganism is giving me life, but how does projecting perfection really serve the world?

Ultimately, I believe there’s more strength in vulnerability. By somehow pulling back the curtain, letting you in on my struggle is not only cathartic for me, but somehow what I’m going through what I’m experiencing may make someone else dealing with a similar issue not feel so alone. May someone get a small glimmer of hope from this.

Here goes, I was dumped on last Saturday morning, so not even a week ago he broke up with me. I finally said clearly what I wanted. I set one expectation and he bowed out the fight. I thought, “Am I not worth the effort?”, “Did he ever care about me at all?”, “How is it so easy to walk away?”. Despite these unanswered questions, I take responsibility too.

In a world where, I fully embrace Abraham Hicks, philosophy of the law of attraction and allowing, and Eckhart Tolle’s Power of Now I got involved with someone just having fun. Neither of us was thinking about anything serious. Two souls living in the moment, caught in the flow. Enjoying each other’s company, no strings attached. Until, (cue the violins) my heart got involved, then my desires got involved, and almost immediately expectations showed up. I hid my expectations in the corner of my heart for as long as I could. Like a kid playing hide and seek behind the living room curtains, they kept peeking out. He noticed, we had a conversation, so afraid that I would lose the love affair that I wanted to be my last I pushed my needs to the back of the closet out of fear of pushing this beautiful soul away. I accommodated. I shrank. I was a coward. Not only would I have to confess to him what I really wanted, but I would have had to confess to myself. In the words of Kevin Hart, “pineapples, I wasn’t ready”. I wasn’t ready to own my desires. I wasn’t ready to risk that he didn’t want the same things. After spending time with him, I had realized that I wanted something serious, something meaningful, a long-term partnership with someone amazing. I thought he could be that amazing someone.

The line between loving someone else and loving ourselves is oh so thin. How does one begin to decide where and when to draw the line in the sand? In hindsight, I think I waited too long to have a conversation, so instead of having a nice conversation, a healthy exchange I waited until I waited until I popped like a good bag of popcorn all hot and ready. I went on a small yet powerful texting rampage, the heat from my fingers could have caused my phone to overheat.

So on day 5 of the breakup, what have I learned? I’ve learned that we should be honest not only with the other person, but with ourselves about what we really want because it gives us an opportunity to receive what we want. It gives the other person an opportunity to say no I don’t want those things. You can both walk away before too many feelings are involved. As much as I feel like a sucka, secretly waiting for my inner savage to pop out I’m actually proud of myself, for letting my passivity go and letting my truth flow. Well, it was more like a fiery inferno, but it was authentic. He was authentic, when he said “Bye, Felicia”.

I’m not going to sit here and say that everything is all good. I’ve learned a lesson and now I’m perfectly healed. I look forward to meeting the man of my dreams, Mr. Right, my twin flame, my soulmate. It is just freaking day five, so I am healing. I am learning to accept that we can’t change what other people want, do, or don’t want. We have to be able to be true to ourselves and not accept less than what we really want from anyone.

Set healthy boundaries in all of our relationships, friendships, and with family. Don’t be afraid to say what you want and wait to receive it. While I impatiently wait for my true love to show up I’m focusing on the woman in the mirror, loving her, giving her the life she wants and focusing on her growth, what she needs most from me right now. The end of one relationship has led to an expansion of the one I have with myself. I guess that’s the gift of a breakup.

Fitness Workout Motivation You Can Use to Stay Fit


Nothing wrong with being summertime fine, but when it comes to really sticking and committing to your fitness goals it has be deeper than a cute beach selfie. We have to be in it for the long term gains. Not to mention, the summer is coming to an end and the holidays are coming with all their calorie filled glory and gatherings. What are we going to do, to stay motivated once we move the beach wear to the back of the drawer? Are we doomed until cuffing season ends and spring has sprung again?! I say NO!

Just saying NO, won’t be enough, will it? Nope, it will take some shifting of our perspective and motivation to stay summertime fine all year long. Each day is a new chance for us to decide what our fitness goals are and how we can be better than we’ve ever been before. We all have different drivers, those things that motivate us to push harder, get up earlier, run faster and train harder. It’s up to us to keep those carrots in front of us, like the horse in all those tales. You and I have to find a way to stay committed to stay on the road to our own greatness, health, vitality and overall well being.

What if you fall off the wagon? What if you ate too much of all the wrong foods? So what?! Failure is apart of success. The game ain’t over and we’re not done. As long as you get up the next day and find your way back to the gym, back on the mat, you’re good! It’s not about never failing or falling, it is about keeping it moving in the direction you want no matter what. Know your why? Know your values? Then, set your sail towards that beautiful paradise marked X on your map. Sometimes, you have to recalculate the route, but as long as you wake up er’ day putting that same address in your internal GPS that’s what counts.

In this video, I’m sharing some of the ways I stay committed to my own fitness journey. #healthiswealth



Sharing is caring sooooo….Comment below or on the video. Let me know how you stay committed to your workout routine!


Never Have Another Panic Attack Again

I cannot count how many times I was on the verge of a total meltdown or B***h Fit. As a matter of fact, there was a time in my life when they were all too common.

The good news is – “I am delivered!” Wait. Are people still saying that? Oh. Okay. Whatever. Who cares? You can completely avoid the urge to scream, snap back, or socially go ham on your haters. These are a couple ways for you to reel the emotions in and take a step back.

The one thing that I picked up on in my 999 BFs was how I was talking to myself. The voice that has most impact on your emotional state is your own. That’s right. Your own. The more negative emotions that we have stirring in our spirits, the more lies we tell ourselves. That’s right. We lie to ourselves. We lie to ourselves about how bad the situation is, about our own abilities, our talents, the people in our lives, our relationships, and all these lies add up to a major breakdown and our ability to see things how they really are. So, listen to the lies you tell, and then, turn it around.

You can completely avoid the urge to scream, snap back, or socially go ham on your haters. These are a couple ways for you to reel the emotions in and take a step back.

Let’s say that you are in the middle of a BF. And it’s in full swing. And you hear, “Nobody loves me!” Believe it or not, this is something I used to say to myself a lot, a whole lot. You can turn that around by saying, “Everybody loves me! Everybody loves me! Everybody loves me!” And yes, you have to do that when you do it, too.

That first time you turn your inner lies upside down, you’re going to feel fake. You will feel phony. You definitely won’t feel like you are keeping it 100. Keep it up though. This is the thing that turns the whole game around for you. It’s a total game changer. Be the hall monitor of your own mind. Stop your own inner lies before you act on things that are not true.

The reality is things aren’t ever as bad as we think they are. We always have more resources and more opportunity than we recognize in the midst intense emotions. Whenever, you feel your temp rising, and your breath gets fant and you know a BF is on the way. Don’t look for somebody else and it doesn’t matter where you are. You might say, “Hey Trina, I’m not in a place where I can be yelling all loud and stuff, and telling everybody and all these and I don’t want my co-workers in my business, I’m in the middle of my cubicle.” Take a sheet of paper. Write it down, and write it down and write it down and write it down again. If you have to write until your hand hurt starts bleeding, do it until the words have become like a cool ice drink of hot summer day, until you are cool, calm and collected.

Remember, this is a marathon not a sprint! You’ll want to keep it going. It is a way to retrain your brain and take your mindset to another level. Changing our minds and changing our bodies, is never easy. I know for me it is always hard at first, and never feels like “me”. It tends to feel like I’m pretending to be someone else. Then, one day it snaps. Suddenly, I’ve become the person I was once “pretending” to be. Take those lies in your head and turn them around, avoid the BF and move on in full control of your emotions, your life, your destiny.

What are some ways you reel yourself in to avoid losing it? Comment below. Let’s start a conversation.





Today, I’m mad crazy happy, I feel sexy and confident. I would’ve never thought it was possible to be this “zen“. The self-awareness game is definitely on a new level. This empowers me to really reflect on my own actions, thoughts, patterns and beliefs. Now I can work through things that have held me back in the past.

I used to I struggle with low energy, depression and anxiety. I was always fatigued. Then, I’d get myself worked up into an emotional tissy at the drop of hat. Something or someone didn’t meet my expectations. Life felt like an emotional roller coaster.

How did I get here?

Through diet and daily rituals.

Eating a vegan diet has transformed my body, but more importantly my mindset. Now, I see myself differently. I have a deeper connection with Trina. My self-image has gone ALL THE WAY UP!

It’s not an E-G-O thing! This is more about learning to honor myself, my body and making conscious choices for my greater good on a moment-by-moment basis. The cool thing about veganism is not feeling locked into calorie counting, or minimizing meals. Imagine guilt-free eating?

There’s a way we can have it ALL. Major energy, revenge-worthy bodies, and crystal clear clarity!

Our diet plays such a huge part of so many parts of our lives. It impacts our energy levels, physical and even emotional health. You can create lasting lifestyle change to take your mind and body to the next level.

Connect with me on a whole new level….

What’s the 411?

MANIFEST YOUR GAME UP is an new online membership. Your first course will be…Sexy Inside Out: A Seductive Course to a Sexy Body & Life will help you take your life to the next level by introducing you to practical meals, mantras and daily practices to be the sexiest, most confident, and energized version of yourself ever!

In this first course, I share my personal transition into a vegan lifestyle. I talk to you about how I manage eating out, family gatherings, and grocery shopping. Also, I have 4 full vegan meal recipes.

There will always be a bit of insight about the daily practices that have really helped me find and maintain my joy!

This is 100% online, so you can get access anywhere there’s wi-fi. It is full HD video and audio. Plus, you’ll get a workbook you can use throughout the course to track your progress.

Doesn’t matter if you’re a woman or a man, so many things in our lives pull us away from our inner being, our center, that sacred part of our beings that is separate from society’s labels. It is our higher self, that most pure and powerful part of ourselves.

The intention of this 6 module video course is designed to help you mentally, physically and spiritually be your best self.  It includes sexy yet sacred daily rituals to build your body confidence, practical and easy vegan recipes. After wrapping up this course, you’ll feel vibrant, alive, fueled with a sexy confidence you’ve ever felt!

What’s included…

  • Access to Private Facebook Group to ask questions, get support and share your journey
  • 7 Day Vegan Meal Plan
  • Shopping List
  • MANIFEST Workbook
  • Meditation Practice Journal

Benefit Breakdown: Here’s what you’ll be able to do after taking this course…

  • Prep and cook simple, yet flavorful plant based meals
  • Have longer sustained energy throughout your day
  • Create more joy and balance
  • Reduce stress in your life
  • Build body confidence
  • Get clarity on what’s your next right move
  • Create mindful relationships
  • Have better sex

You should take this join  MANIFEST YOUR GAME UP if:

  • You are tired of going on “diets“.
  • You want a revenge-worthy body.
  • Need more energy.
  • Want glowing skin.
  • You are over losing weight only to gain it all back.
  • Ready to adopt a healthier lifestyle.
  • Looking for healthy alternatives for your cravings.
  • Excited about game changing lifestyle choices.
  • Desire more confidence and swag.

As a bonus, I’ve included a vegan-friendly grocery shopping list! This membership will change your relationship with food and the way you see yourself, but this is only the beginning. We are just getting started.

I created MANIFEST YOUR GAME UP, because one of things I’ve learned about making changes in life is that it’s always easier to maintain positive changes when you have ongoing reinforcement, accountability and a squad of other people around you with the same goals. Together we are building a bond to help you heal your eating habits, your mind and body.

Let me help you push past your past behaviors, change how you see yourself and how you feel about sticking to healthy eating habits.

There’s no time like the present to give yourself (and a friend, maybe?) the gift of health and overall well-being. Get started on the NEW YOU, before the NEW YEAR.

Join today, and prepare yourself for your BEST year ever! Eat freely, lose weight and feel amazing. There is a path that leads to the success you really want!



How to Fake Your Happy Ending?

How to Fake It Til You Make It


I know you’ve heard, “Fake it, til you make it!”.  The media is constantly scrutinizing celebs for using Photoshop, women are taking off their makeup, and reality TV dominates channel surfing and here I am telling you to fake it. What the heck?! There’s too much pressure to keep it real and be authentic to start faking it now, right?

Listen, I get it, but give me a second to breakdown the benefits of faking it. First, it’s not about convincing other people of something. This is about us, shifting our mindset from where we are. Our current situation, job, relationship status, bank account balance, number of followers, or social status. All the self development coaches and gurus, say the same thing…we have to see ourselves already in the dream job, great relationship, with the money in order to bring it to reality.

If you don’t believe it yourself, don’t ask anyone else to do so. – Napoleon Hill

You’ll feel like a poser at first. It’s awkward to call yourself a CEO when your company has even launched yet, but believing you are that is what it takes to shift from hobbyist to have the hottest new business on the block. Whenever, I’ve made any major life change in my life. I’ve had to go through the faking it phase before any real momentum was created. I had to make the mental shift in how I viewed myself. You and I have the power to take seeds of thought and turn them into trees of greatness. The power of our imagination can change our personal lives and the world if we believe in ourselves.

Check out the video below to unlock the 3 keys on How to Fake It Til You Make It.


Have you faked it and made it? Are you caught in a funk trying to fake it? Let me know by commenting below. Comments aren’t your thing…that’s ok! Tweet me @pretymotivated. Can’t wait to hear from you!

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