I cannot count how many times I was on the verge of a total meltdown or B***h Fit. As a matter of fact, there was a time in my life when they were all too common.
The good news is – “I am delivered!” Wait. Are people still saying that? Oh. Okay. Whatever. Who cares? You can completely avoid the urge to scream, snap back, or socially go ham on your haters. These are a couple ways for you to reel the emotions in and take a step back.
The one thing that I picked up on in my 999 BFs was how I was talking to myself. The voice that has most impact on your emotional state is your own. That’s right. Your own. The more negative emotions that we have stirring in our spirits, the more lies we tell ourselves. That’s right. We lie to ourselves. We lie to ourselves about how bad the situation is, about our own abilities, our talents, the people in our lives, our relationships, and all these lies add up to a major breakdown and our ability to see things how they really are. So, listen to the lies you tell, and then, turn it around.
You can completely avoid the urge to scream, snap back, or socially go ham on your haters. These are a couple ways for you to reel the emotions in and take a step back.
Let’s say that you are in the middle of a BF. And it’s in full swing. And you hear, “Nobody loves me!” Believe it or not, this is something I used to say to myself a lot, a whole lot. You can turn that around by saying, “Everybody loves me! Everybody loves me! Everybody loves me!” And yes, you have to do that when you do it, too.
That first time you turn your inner lies upside down, you’re going to feel fake. You will feel phony. You definitely won’t feel like you are keeping it 100. Keep it up though. This is the thing that turns the whole game around for you. It’s a total game changer. Be the hall monitor of your own mind. Stop your own inner lies before you act on things that are not true.
The reality is things aren’t ever as bad as we think they are. We always have more resources and more opportunity than we recognize in the midst intense emotions. Whenever, you feel your temp rising, and your breath gets fant and you know a BF is on the way. Don’t look for somebody else and it doesn’t matter where you are. You might say, “Hey Trina, I’m not in a place where I can be yelling all loud and stuff, and telling everybody and all these and I don’t want my co-workers in my business, I’m in the middle of my cubicle.” Take a sheet of paper. Write it down, and write it down and write it down and write it down again. If you have to write until your hand hurt starts bleeding, do it until the words have become like a cool ice drink of hot summer day, until you are cool, calm and collected.
Remember, this is a marathon not a sprint! You’ll want to keep it going. It is a way to retrain your brain and take your mindset to another level. Changing our minds and changing our bodies, is never easy. I know for me it is always hard at first, and never feels like “me”. It tends to feel like I’m pretending to be someone else. Then, one day it snaps. Suddenly, I’ve become the person I was once “pretending” to be. Take those lies in your head and turn them around, avoid the BF and move on in full control of your emotions, your life, your destiny.
What are some ways you reel yourself in to avoid losing it? Comment below. Let’s start a conversation.