Finding the Balance: Self-love, Relationships, & Responsibility

 

Everyday we all juggle all the to-dos along with our want to-dos, and sometimes it can be a real struggle finding the right balance. I’ve found that self-love and self-care rituals have to be moved to the to-do column. In order, to cultivate peace and balance within ourselves and our relationships we have to make ourselves a priority. Always putting others needs before our own can breed resentment. Especially, when we perceive that they aren’t reciprocating the same self-sacrificing dedication. We are our own obligation. We must put ourselves first. Not in some narcissist, I’m the only person that matters selfish kinda way, but in a I’m going to fill up my own glass so I have something to give to you, healthy kinda way.

It can be difficult initially, to say no or put family members, significant others, and friends on the back burner while you take sometime to love on you. It is a necessary element to having a balanced life. I find that when I take time to honor myself, with something as simple as 10 minutes of calm, meditation, quietness all the way to something more elaborate like a day at the spa. I’m ready to give love, advice, support to my loved ones without feeling drained. I’m renewed it’s like I just had a red bull for the soul I’ve got wings to be an angel to everybody! Like an Oprah angel, fluttering over my friends & family dishing out nuggets of wisdom, support and laughs.

 

It’s our job to stay in touch with ourselves as we evolve. To constantly, be in touch with who we are now, what we need now, and what makes us happy now. No one can do that for us.

 

So honor yourself, find out what gives you solace. What gives you peace? Is it reading a good book, doing yoga, sitting under the stars, going for a walk, watching a good film, sitting by the pool, sketching, knitting, writing, planning your week, or a nice bubble bath? We’ve all got our thing. Sometimes, we have different self-care practices and different moments in our lives. Dr. Debra Campbell from MindBodyGreen.com encourages us to, “Be patient with yourself if some of your self-care activities take some time to flower—yoga, meditation, piano lessons—these don’t always give joyful returns overnight.” We are always evolving. It’s our job to stay in touch with ourselves as we evolve. To constantly, be in touch with who we are now, what we need now, and what makes us happy now. No one can do that for us. Self-care is our responsibility. To ourselves and those closest to us. We are better parents, friends, lovers, son & daughters, when we are better to ourselves.

What are your self-love practices? Has anything changed for you recently? Comment below and let me know.

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A Green Smoothie to Get Your Day Poppin’

 

Seriously, this is a great green smoothie to start your day! It’s jam packed with major nutrients, enzymes and alkalizing minerals to make you look and feel like a Vibrant Thang’! This smoothie recipe will boost your energy, immunity, and digestion for the day. We’ve got a bit of spinach, which is a great plant-based source of calcium, fiber and omega-3. Kale is fortified with iron, antioxidants, vitamins A, K, C and potassium. Even romaine lettuce, that’s also rich in Vitamin A, folate and magnesium. Two medium sized apples to give us a bit of sweetness to mask the bitterness of the green veggies. Now, if you’re just starting to step into the green smoothie game, add agave or a couple of Medjool dates to sweeten this recipe.

 

 

Add ice, if you like nice cold smoothies! I threw in a couple tablespoons of chia seeds to get in even more omega 3.

Load up your blender and blend baby, blend! Having a smoothie at the start of our day, sets the tone for your metabolism throughout the whole day. Blending your favorite dark leafy greens and fruits together allows you to maximum your nutrient intake. Because the food, is raw, blended and not chewed it gives our bodies a chance to really get all the amazing benefits. The vitamins of the fruits and veggies are quickly and easily absorbed by the body then they shoot through our bloodstream. The results are, instant! Over time, committing to this daily life hack will be major. Eating right is great, and even better when we can pull all the nutrients out of the foods we consume. #reallywinning 

Find out more about the super science behind what green smoothies can do for you at NutritionFacts.org.

Sharing is caring, so if you know someone that would love to look and feel like a vibrant thang be sure to pay it forward and pass this post along.

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My 3 Favorite Plant Based Meat Substitutes

 

Seitan is a wheat gluten mock meat. It has about 18 grams of protein per every 3 ounces. The texture is really meat-like. The box in the photos comes in little chunks, but you can also get it in slices. I love stir frying it, adding some bell peppers and spice. Oh, if you’re curious, check out my Seitan Wrap Recipe Video.

Mushrooms, are a perfect meat substitute. They have that chewy and filling feel we associate with meat. Usually, I’ll add this to pasta dishes saute them along with a creamy sauce or marinara. I’ve been to a couple of vegan and vegetarian spots that will have a mushroom burger or fry oyster mushrooms like chicken. It just works so well!

Tofu, has been my go-to meat subby since before I was vegan, when I just dipped and dapped in a meatless dish or two. Half a cup of tofu contains around 10 grams of protein. It doesn’t really have a taste or flavor on it’s own. That makes it the perfect blank canvas for a spice master. It absorbs the flavor of whatever you dress it up with! You can fry it, saute it, or bake it. Try marinating it overnight in your favorite spice or sauce mixture. Then, after a few hours go for it!

 

Here are a few other vegan friendly meat substitutes…

  • Eggplant
  • Tempeh
  • TVP (Textured Vegetable Protein)
  • Lentils
  • Jackfruit…OMG!!! Watch this super amazing Vegan BBQ Sandwich Video! I’m definitely, going to try this one soon…

 

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Clarity, Love, and Connecting the Dots to Authentic Self Love

 

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.” – Steve Jobs

 

This is only one of the deep takeaways, from Steve Jobs’ Stanford graduation speech. If you asked me who I wanted to be when I was younger, it was Oprah! I’ve always wanted to invoke people with positive emotions. It could be making you, laugh, feel empowered, spark a moment of clarity (#AHAmoment). Only, I never felt worthy of Oprah-DOM!

Keeping it real, there will not be another Oprah, but there won’t be another ME or YOU either. Have you ever felt like you weren’t worthy of your dreams? I’m no stranger to that feeling. For the longest, I didn’t think I was deserving of an empowerment platform or message because of where I’m from, things I’ve done and past failures. A couple years ago, I had a chance to attend one of Lisa Nichols speaking workshops. Have you ever been somewhere and really wanted to be called on, but then once you do, you’re like…no wait, I’m not ready for this! Ok, well when I got called on stage to do a quick speech exercise on stage, in room full of 20 or so people I’d only met the day before. This was that moment for me. My heart is racing, I was hoping no one would see me sweat, literally because I had a royal blue sheer polyester shirt on. I get to the stage. The lights are bright. Somehow my mouth opens and I flow. It’s an effortless flow. Straight from the universe through me. It was powerful, people stood up and clapped. Epic moment, not because of the clapping. That was nice, but it was about a feeling, a sense of knowing that I was doing exactly what I was send here to do.

After my brief, Tony Robbins-esque speech. Lisa coached, me she told me that I played small. In my mind, I’m like okay, but I’m 5’1…soooo. She meant I hid my power, my authentic voice, my larger than life personality, that LEO fire. Pretty early in life, I learned that standing out seemed to draw out negativity from others. Shining bright like a diamond, just didn’t feel right. So I turned down, raised my hand less in class, asked for opportunities less, and turned that LEO flame into a small occasionally lit flicker.  She made me promised that I would walk off that stage and never shrink down again.

I would like to say that the game-changed right then, but it took a minute for me to really embrace the idea. Over the past, year or maybe two there’s been a major shift. If you’ve been following me, maybe you’ve noticed it. I just started asking myself, “Who am I not to live in the fullest version of me, to not do GOD’s work, to not align with the universal flow? YOU and I have a divine freaking right to live and be a light to the world.

I’m a born nurture, a healer, that’s my purpose! It’s why I’m here…do I take selfies? Yep, sometimes! Do I love hip-hop, for better or worse? Absolutely. Am I also an advocate for mindfulness and healthy living? No, question. Like, corny jokes? Bring, em’ on! Do I have an absurd affection for Beyonce? Maybe. Do I love with all my heart? Always. Have I decided to live unapologetically me? YAAASSS!!!! And so, should YOU!!

V-day is on the way, and I had love on the brain. I want to send loving vibes to my tribe, you’re my family. Just the idea that by honoring my purpose, I’m somehow serving you is the fuel that keeps me lit. Be encouraged, stay in alignment with your highest self even when the road gets bumpy, the air is foggy and the world seems so cold continue to love yourself to your fullest potential.

The best gift we can give the world is to be true to ourselves, our calling, and our unique gifts. To paraphrase, my girl Marie Forleo, DO YOU because ALL of US need the gifts ONLY YOU CAN GIVE!!

Got a minute? If so, check out this video. There are some game-changing truth bombs and inspirational sound bites from my interview with Chris Howell.

 

Live. Love. and Laugh your A%$ OFF

#whynot

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Lemon & Spinach Vegan Pasta