Today is the day, I was supposed to pledge my lifelong love and commitment to a beautiful soul. For the past few months, I’ve been sharing on social media how strong I’ve been throughout the transition, but last Saturday I was sitting at a beautiful candlelit table at my friend’s wedding reception when a flood of emotions hit me like a ton of bricks. I was completely blind sighted. I thought I was over it, but the reality that after nearly a decade, my relationship is over. I felt all of it deeply and allowed myself to be ok with this very natural part of the healing process. Often, when things end, be it relationships, careers, friendships or whatever we tend to bask in the past. If we aren’t mindful we can catch ourselves in the “what-if zone”. After the rivers of tears dried, I reminded myself that the beauty of this journey called life is not in the rearview mirror, it is in looking forward to all the amazing possiblities that lie on the road ahead.
In the spirit of fully embracing my “Aha moment”, I’ve decided to marry to myself (say what?!). Yaaasss, I was inspired, after I watched this amazing Ted X talk by Tracy Mcmillan, “The Person You Really Need to Marry”. It resonated so deeply with me. The first time I watched it, it just stuck with me! I believe and appreciate the power of a harmonious partnership with the right person. I now realize that the deeper my commitment is to myself the better partner I can be to Mr. Right. My new main squeeze, is looking at me in the mirror everyday. She’s been waiting for me to love her unconditionally. On the good and bad hair days. Truth is, no other person can really love us unconditionally. It’s just part of being human, but we do have the power show others how to love us by leading by example. Loving ourselves fully, forgiving ourselves, embracing our imperfections, and celebrating our own victories.
I appreciate my previous relationship, the lessons I learned and the growth that came out of it. I also accept the NOW, and I’m excited that I’ve been able to embrace a new unconditionally wonderful relationship with the person who matters most…me! Choosing to live in love and light embracing every aspect of who I am. Gently acknowledging opportunities for improvement while celebrating my greatest gifts. As a good friend of mine always says, “this journey is not for the faint at heart honey”. It is from the unexpected turns in life that we gain our deepest strength and insight. I am grateful to have loved and learned. My heart is open to loving again in an even bigger way than ever before and today I choose to love myself first and foremost.
Self love is the beginning of ALL love.
Should you marry yourself? Even if you’re already married? How would your life improve if you loved yourself a little more, criticized yourself a little less and forgave yourself a little more?
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