Ever feel like it’s so easy to give advice to your girlfriends and family? But somehow when it comes to yourself you’re stuck cold-calling anyone that will listen!
I’ll raise my hand! In the past if I had a bad day, I would work my way through the contacts in my phone until someone, anyone answered so I could vent. It was like I was a contestant on Who Wants to be a Millionaire? dialing for a lifeline. But over the years, I’ve been able to act as my own coach. Here are the personas I use to work myself out of a funky feeling.
The Watcher – I take a step outside myself. Then, began evaluating my thoughts and actions. With these questions…
Why do I feel this way?
Why am I doing this?
Is this a valid reaction to the circumstance?
Is there something underneath the tip of this iceberg?
What can I do to immediately go from pity party to pure party?
The Enforcer – Get it together Trina! I become my own Lil John and begin asking “Turn Down For What?!” Making sure that I stay on point and committed to my action plan to effect change for myself.
The Accountant – I begin to take a record. Be it just a mindful observation, journaling or daily/weekly reflection. Basically, a built in accountability partner.
“Whatever you want to make better, you better make sure you measure it more often.” – Tony Robbins
We all need support, but it’s nice to be self-reliant too! Nothing is better for boosting your confidence.
Try wearing these hats the next time you find yourself drifting out of balance. It’s a great way to wiggle yourself back to the right rhythm.
How do you keep yourself in check?
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Mindful. Meaningful. Motivation.